This week, I received an e-mail about a toddler playing too rough.
Her mom wrote, “My 2-year-old started pushing other kids around her age two months ago. She is quite tall and big for her age so she is pretty strong. She loves younger babies and plays very well with bigger kids on the other hand. I felt extremely bad today that she pushed another toddler like 3-4 times in an indoor playground. That kid was obviously scared of her being near in the end and her mom scolded my daughter despite my efforts to correct the misbehavior. My daughter will be going to preschool soon, please help!”
I wanted to reach out to hug this mom because I know how it feels to not understand something and not feel like you can fix it. In the meantime, here is some advice for when your toddler is playing too rough.If Your Toddler Is Playing Too Rough, Talk To Them
Kids are way smarter than we give them credit for. Sometimes just talking helps a little. Make sure you are even with their eye level!
- Many times, toddlers act out in this way because they are limited in vocabulary, so it seems to be the only way they can communicate. Are there triggers that are causing him/her to act out in this way?
- Before playgroup, tell your friends that you are currently working on this struggle with your child. Being upfront about it can be hard, but help them understand that you are aware.
- Encourage your child and remind them that they are kind. Speaking truth into your child can help them feel boosted in their mindset.
- After a successful playgroup, praise your child and encourage through positive words!
Teach With Your Actions If Your Toddler Is Playing Too Rough
Toddlers pick up many of their social cues at home, so make sure you are practicing what you preach.
- Role play at home with baby dolls. Act out different scenarios. This also makes for great playtime!
- When you are home, practice kindness. Play with the stuffed animals and show how they are kind during a tea party, when playing outside, etc.
- Be their example. If you want something, say “I really wanted that, but I will not push you. I will just ask you for it.”
Set Boundaries If Your Toddler Is Playing Too Rough
Disciplining is one of the hardest parts of parenting. Yet, boundaries and routine are necessary for a child to thrive, feel safe, and know what’s expected of them.
- On your way to the playgroup, remind your child of the expectations.
- While it may be frustrating, you may need to stay near her during the playgroup as you can intervene when needed. If you sense her ready to act out, you can remind her of kindness and how to interact with friends.
- If the child acts out, have them sit in time out. Remind them that if they cannot act kindly, they will have to sit out for a time.
- When your child does hit, stay positive and remove them from the situation. Remind them that you love them but you cannot hit others because it hurts them.
- Stay consistent. It takes time to train children and a lot of repetition.
Comment below with your tips on how to handle the situation when a toddler is playing too rough!