Your kids need you.
The other night, I was sound asleep in my bed when I heard that sound that makes you jump to your feet: “Mom? Moooommmmmm….”
I went into our daughter’s room to find her hiding under her blankets, scared from whatever nightmare she had just had.
“What’s wrong?” I asked her.
“I need you.” she responded.
I need you. So simple. Yet innocent. And endearing. She needed me.
Your kids need you.
Your Kids Need You
Sometimes, moms, your kids just need you.
They want to get out of their bed to find you because they know that you will keep them safe.
Sometimes, they want to run to you when they should be staying in their rooms because they know that your hug will cure whatever hurts.
Your children want to fall asleep with your arms around them and know you love them.
When I think of the many times that our kids have asked me to lie in their beds, those are the times that I remember the most. The memories that stand out most in my mind.
Even better… when I think about my own childhood, I can remember the times when my mom said “OK” when I told her that I needed her, too. I can remember her lying in my bed, in her white pajamas with little pink flowers on them. She was sound asleep because her, “Just one minute,” worked in my favor and her exhaustion took over.
I loved those days. Knowing that she was asleep beside me, I could fall asleep with my eyes shut (as opposed to open, because I was always afraid of the dark).
I remember those times very fondly… like it was yesterday, and I remember how happy it made me.
So, when your kids need you, don’t worry about the rules, just this once… instead, let them need you and be there for them. The truth of the matter is…we need them right back.
Why Saying Yes to Your Children Matters
Sometimes we just have to say yes to our children even when things are busy. How many times do you said no to something your child asks simply because you were busy? Not because you should have said no? Rather than saying no automatically because you are feeling frazzled, give your child the gift of saying yes. You’ll feel better about it, and so will your precious child.
How to Be More Present in Your Child’s Life
One of the issues so prominent in our society today is that we have so many things vying for our attention. In order to be certain that we are being present in our child’s life, we have to say no to things that are not as important as they are. And trust me, they notice when you do (and when you don’t). Take notice of how they are asking for one on one time… and then give it to them.
5 Ways to be A More Present Parent
- Stop what you are doing and truly focus on your child.
- Be more patient when they are hurting, sad, or mad.
- Commit to doing more activities with them.
- Make time to connect with them every day.
- Learn to speak their love language.
Loving our children is the best thing we can do for them as parents. Let’s continue to be there when they need us. Let them feel our love for them in all we say and do.
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