Tiny Change That Makes A Big Difference In Your Kids

There are a few things that I have learned over the years of being a mom of three boys (who are now all teenagers).  But the tiny change that by far made the biggest difference in our family was what I am sharing today. This is my favorite parenting tip.  It is super simple change, but has completely changed the relationship I have with my kids.

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Being a Good Parent

This time of year is filled with thoughts of new year’s resolutions, but honestly…I just want to be the best mom for my kids.

It is my belief that we are good parents.

Moms, dads, grandparents & care-givers that care about our kids and are trying the best we know how to make their life great.

I love the quote:

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”

-Maya Angelou

In attempt to “knowing better”, it is so important for us to join together and share what we have learned (often the hard way)!

That is what this series is all about.  Sharing what I have learned.  I hope that you will use the comments to share tips and tricks gleaned along YOUR journey.

My favorite tip of all time…

Take the Parenting Challenge

I was pregnant with my third child.  One of the gifts I got at this really beautiful baby shower (one of my neighbors threw for me) was a needle point pillow.

And the weird thing is I don’t even know where this pillow is today…does that make me a really bad mom?

Yep, I’ve told this story, I don’t know, maybe a hundred times since then and I don’t even know where the pillow is!

So, okay, there’s your first clue who you’re working with.

But anyway, the pillow said: KIDS NEED 17 HUGS A DAY

It is really official when it is in needlepoint on a pillow!

At this point in my life I already had a toddler and a preschooler.

The words on that pillow kinda stopped me in my tracks.

Seventeen hugs a day!

That’s a LOT!

And my kids are…boys.

And I am not a touchy feely person.

I hit me in the face.

I started thinking…what if this is true?

And decided to move forward like it was.

I’m gonna try it.

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My oldest had all sorts of sensory issues and so to get one hug in a day was a miracle, but what I found when I started trying is that our relationship changed in a really fun and playful way.

I started trying to get 17 hugs a day from my kids and a beautiful thing about 17 hugs a day is lets say I only got to three hugs one day…that might have been three more than I would have gotten without the goal.

If you try this and you are an over-achiever, I want you to stretch for 17 hugs a day but give yourself a break if you “fail” and only get three, or five, or 12, or 16!

Every hug is a victory.

17 hugs a day - Kids Activities blog

 

If you try this and you are already a huggy person, you’re gonna be like 17?  Piece of cake.

If you try this and you are not a huggy person (like me), then one really fun way to get started is to sneak this in–like a super secret ninja mom way.  Go up and hug your kid after this video and just say “one” without explanation.  Then later in the day when you hug again, say “two”.  Keep going with  three, four, five and beyond just hugging and saying the number.

At some point they are going to get curious!

You know your kid and how this is gonna play out and how you can playfully enlist their help with this goal.

With my kids, I told them, “I have a goal of hugging you 17 times a day!

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It got really frantic and fun in our house toward the end of the day.  They knew I had to get three more hugs and they start hiding.  It ends up to be a big chase through the house!

And I might be cheating a little if I corner one of them and finish off the hugs I need for the day all at once.

And they might protest and giggle.

Just have fun with it.

Start thinking about that 17 hugs a day and how you’re gonna get those with your kids.

Yay, go hug, hug, hug!

17 Hugs a Day Printable Worksheet

I thought it would be fun to come up with some sort of reminder (&/or way to record your hugs).

Love 1 - 17 Hugs Printable for Kids Activities Blog

There are a ton of ways to use this.  Here are some ideas:

  • Cut out the squares and hide them all over the house.  Whoever finds one has to go collect on a hug within a certain amount of time.
  • Post it on the fridge and enlist the entire family to record how the 17 hugs a day goal is going.
  • Cut out 2 square “books” – one side would have the number 17 and the other the 17 symbols.  Put it in your pocket (or your child’s pocket) and check off each hug during the day.

Download & print the 17 hugs worksheet…can we just call it a playsheet? – 17 HUGS A DAY

30 Day Bestest, Funnest Mom Challenge Calendar

If you would like to follow along at home, here is a printable calendar of the things we will be talking about:

Bestest Funnest Mom 30 Day Challenge Calendar

You can use it as a mini-journal to remind yourself about the main takeaway for YOUR family on each day.  Each topic we cover is broken down into symbols:

  • Heart = Love
  • Duck = Play
  • Clock = Time & Time Management
  • Star = Kid & Kid Behavior
  • Flower = Mom & Mom Behavior

Watch Kids Activities Blog each day in January to see each day’s challenge.  Believe me, small changes can add up to BIG results.

Download & print your copy now:  30 DAY CHALLENGE CALENDAR

What is YOUR favorite parenting tip/trick?

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  1. Wow. Ive just realized that since my younger son was born (7months), I rarely hug my older one (4yo). And it makes me really sad… Thanks for this amazing post, a real eye-opener for me!

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