Teachers and parents often tell children to pay attention because they realize that students will not remember information unless they stay focused on the task at hand.

The ability to  focus your attention may seem simple to you, but paying attention is a skill and, like all skills,  it may be learned. Many students have never learned how to block out distractions and direct
their thoughts and energies. Parents can help children improve their ability to concentrate by  teaching them a few simple techniques.

Helping your Child Pay Attention

1. Use Positive Images and Self-Talk
Many people can improve their attention span by controlling the images they have in their
mind’s eye. For example, when runners are halfway through a race, they may picture the
victory of crossing the finish line; or dieters may imagine a slim new appearance when
tempted by ice cream cone. These images help keep attention focused on a difficult task.
Self-talk is similar to this – you give yourself a mental pep talk. A child might tell
himself, I know I am getting distracted, but I can fight it. I will study for another half-hour
and then take a break. Children can use both self-talk and images to direct their attention
away from distractions and toward the task at hand, whether it is homework, classwork or a
2. Ask Questions
Another way to direct attention is to ask questions while studying. Some general questions
you can suggest your children ask themselves are… What is this paragraph about? Who did
what and why? What is the evidence that supports the main idea? Is this true or false, and
why? Asking themselves questions serves two purposes. First, it helps students bring their
wandering attention back to the task at hand. Second, it helps them keep their attention on
the task.
3. Set Specific Goals
One activity that often improves attention is to give your children specific goals to work
toward as they study or read an assignment. The goal you set will depend, of course, on
the lesson and on your children’s ages. You might want them to study until they can tell
you the main idea of a paragraph, until they can solve a specific problem or until they learn
the specific names, dates and places mentioned in the text. When setting studying goals,
remember that many small goals, presented one after another, are better than a single large
one. As your children become more used to using specific goals to guide their studying,
you can ask them to construct some of these goals themselves. Encourage them to divide
their study tasks into small segments, with a goal for each. (I will read this section until I
understand its main point. Then I will go on to the next section. )

These three strategies – positive images and self-talk , questions related to the task, and
specific study goals – will help your children develop better skills for paying attention to their
school work and will get you directly involved in helping them to succeed!

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  2. ‘Helping your Child Pay Attention’ is a helpful article with wonderfully helpful suggestions. I say this because this is where we started with our son after receiving negative feed back from his public school teacher. This came as a surprise to us due the fact he was on unfailing on the honer role and principals list at his school. When positive study habits were not enough we turned to our doctor for assistanct. He turned us in the direction of diet and environment causes. After making a few small changes in routine and eliminating a few things from his diet as well as adding a few we have corrected problems at school and home without the aid of medication and without the stress of family battle. Best of luck to struggling families.