OK, I feel it might be therapeutic to air that there are a few basic mothering duties in which I big, bold, capital letter FAIL.
It isn’t that I don’t WANT to do these, but often my best intentions are procrastinated to a point of absurdity.
For instance, Until today none of my three boys could tie their shoes.
I know! I know! It is totally unacceptable.
At ages 10, 7 and 5 this should be a life skill.
A life skill taught to them by their mother.
It isn’t that I haven’t thought about it. I think about it all the time. I even picked up a little cardboard shoe with mock laces to practice.*
*The fact that the text around this teaching aid was written at a 4 year old level was not lost on me.
5 years ago when Ryan was 5, I attempted a mini-lesson that didn’t get very far. He was able to do the first step, but since he wore velcro, crocs, and slip-ons he never was forced to practice on a daily basis.
I keep thinking that this summer I will take a morning to teach all three of them. I will get it all over in one day.
This morning, 10 minutes prior to leaving for school, Ryan(10) came to me with a shoe with laces and said, “I have to know how to tie a double knot today for history.”
Double knot? We aren’t even in single knot territory yet!
I stopped making Reid’s lunch long enough to show him how to tie a shoe. Then he did it with me holding onto his right hand. Then he did it himself. Then I walked away and he did it again himself. I returned and showed him how to make it a double. He did it one time and said, “cool. thanks.”
The whole process took 2 minutes.
Yes, I have been stressing, procrastinating, agonizing over something that literally took 2 minutes.
Which leads me to believe I might have happened into a good strategy…
It is super easy to teach a 10 year old how to tie his shoes.