10 Tips: Help Children Get Along

Playing nicely together is a skill that kids need to learn {and a few adults}.  Not only does it make the home happier, but in the end being nice is more fun.  Kids Activities Blog loves these mom-tested get along ideas!

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As the parent of a 16 year old and a 4 year old, there are frequent battles between the two as they each try to relate to each other on their respective levels.

10 Tips to Help Children Get Along with Each Other

1.  Rules of respect, love, kindness and sharing

Develop household/classroom rules that are posted that are based on these traits.  Rules should be stated in terms that all children can understand.  Using graphics and pictures as needed.

2.  State feelings, not blame

When conflict or hurt feelings arise, address the feelings it has caused in the offended child instead of chastising the offender.  An example could be, “Michael feels sad when you take his toys from him” instead of “It’s naughty to take your brother’s/friend’s toys.”

3.  Let big be big and little be little

Try not to expect too much out of each child.  When dealing with my two children, a teen and a preschooler, I have to set expectations based on each of their conflict resolution skills for their ages.

4.  Conflict provides opportunities to grow and connect

As long as there is no violence or cruel words being used, sometimes it’s better to let children work their differences out.  By handling their own disagreements, it teaches them to how to resolve problems in a productive way.

5.  Blending the children’s interests together

Payton wants to play play-doh while Ashton wants to play cars.  Suggest that Payton can make play-doh roads for Ashton’s cars to drive in.  Or ask them if they can figure out how to play together in a way that includes both their interests.

6.  Make gifts for each other

Provide various craft items such as modeling clay, pipe cleaners, beads, sequins, etc. for children to make gifts for each other.  Or you can ask each child to pick a craft that they think the other would like and appreciate. This provides time to encourage them to consider the other’s interests and feelings.

7.  Take turns playing based on each child’s interest

When two children are getting ready to play, but want to do different things.  Roll a dice.  The child with the highest number gets their choice in play for 15 minutes, and then they switch to the other child’s pick.

8.  Stress each child’s strengths

One upmanship is a largely typical part of the sibling/friend dynamic.  To help eliminate this, focus on specific strengths and talents of each child to provide them with a sense of individual worth.

9.  What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is yours

Create spaces for each child to store or set aside their specials belongings, toys, etc.  This is beneficial, especially if there is a shared bedroom or playroom.  Not only does this teach respect for others and their belongings, it helps to ease disagreements on certain toys or items.  This one generally works for siblings only.  However, when playdates occur it’s okay to let your child set aside some toys that are not accessible during the playdate.

 

10.  Praise team work

When children work together on their own accord, this is something to be celebrated.  When you catch them making nice choices, give them positive reinforcement so they seek to get those accolades again.

Handling constant squabbling and bickering is often inevitable but doesn’t have to become the standard in your house/classroom.  We’d love to hear how these tips helped your family/class or any other ideas you already use.

Children sometimes need help and encouragement when it comes to getting along with others.  For a few more ideas on how to help you child, you may want to check out these posts:



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Andie Jaye is a former preschool teacher turned SAHM of two kiddos. Her blog, Crayon Freckles, is an eclectic mix of play, art, and learning activities. Mingled in are her perspectives on being a crunchy momma, having a long-haired hippy boy and using follow-your-gut parenting. See more of Andie on Crayon Freckles' Facebook page, on Pinterest or on her parenting teens site Why Does My Teen?